Have you ever had any of these questions go through your mind?
What if someone doesn’t like my advertising?
What if somebody says something negative about me sending advertising to them?
Can I send out too many advertisements?
What if they don’t buy my book because of my advertisements?
And so on.
We are so fearful of offending someone that we forfeit our own success in the meantime.
Does that even make sense?
We apologize for showing and telling something to someone about what we have created by writing our book and getting it published.
We aren’t sure about the book that we have created that it will make someone else’s life happier or easier or more well-defined because they have read our book.
We even apologize for sending them information that could make their life better.
I say that it’s time to change that thinking around and believe that what we have created in our hands will absolutely make a difference in many people’s lives.
And here is the clincher of the whole story: it’s time to believe that every negative comment or response that you may get is actually a positive waiting to be turned around.
Next time you receive something negative decide whether it’s something to hang on to, or consider, or throw out the window entirely. You can decide what you’re going to do with every comment and response that you receive. You alone can grow from it and make something worthy of it.
It all takes perspective.
If you’d like to learn more about how to deflect negative comments please be in touch with me.
I have heard recently that even "bad press" is good press. Getting attention to our work is hard to generate overall. So when a negative comment comes in, it can be heartbreaking! I like that you've pointed out here that it is time for us to believe in ourselves It is time to stop apologizing for what we believe in (hence the book we just wrote) and the dedication we took to get from point A (the research, the writing, the lack of sleep, the goosebumps etc.) to point B (the marketing, the talking about, the engagement with criticism, the aftermath of our efforts) is where our enthusiasm can move us forward, rather than our fears. Momentum is something WE generate. Let's not lose it in the negative feedback or our own insecurities!
Great thoughts.